<>In The Rules of Life, Expanded Version, Richard Templar brings together 106 practical rules that happy, successful people follow, even if they've never thought about it. These are realistic, commonsense things you can do differently, starting today... small things that make a powerful difference. Templar offers real wisdom on telling the difference between what's important and what isn't... focusing on changes you really can make... using your intuition... learning positive lessons from your regrets... having great dreams and making practical plans... staying young... forgiving without becoming a pushover. The first edition of The Rules of Life became a global phenomenon, topping bestseller charts around the world. This new, even better, edition includes nine brand-new rules to take you further, faster. Follow The Rules of Life. You'll feel better. You'll be a better friend, partner, and parent.   The Rules of Work are about how you are seen to be doing it. They are about how you appear to others. And they are about helping you to achieve the success you richly deserve. The first edition of The Rules of Workbecame a global phenomenon, topping bestseller charts around the world. This new, even better, edition includes 10 brand new rules to take you further, faster. These rules are the guiding principles that will improve both what you do and how you do it, giving you the unmistakable air of confidence that will win you admiration, respect, and the next promotion. With The Rules under your belt you'll have the edge in everything you do, without having to compromise your principles.

Table of Contents:
Rules of Life, Expanded Version   Introduction     viii Part I Rules for You     1 1  Keep It Under Your Hat     4 2  You’ll Get Older But Not Necessarily Wiser     6 3  Accept What Is Done Is Done     8 4  Accept Yourself     10 5  Know What Counts and What Doesn’t     12 6  Dedicate Your Life to Something     14 7  Be Flexible in Your Thinking     16 8  Take an Interest in the Outside World     18 9  Be on the Side of the Angels, Not the Beasts     20 10  Only Dead Fish Swim with the Stream     22 11  Be the Last to Raise Your Voice     24 12  Be Your Own Adviser     26 13  No Fear, No Surprise, No Hesitation, No Doubt     28 14  I Wish I’d Done That--and I Will     30 15  It’s OK to Give Up     32 16  Count to Ten--or Recite “Baa Baa Black Sheep”     34 17  Change What You Can Change; Let Go of the Rest     36 18  Aim to Be the Very Best at Everything You Do--Not Second Best     38 19  Don’t Expect to Be Perfect     40 20  Don’t Be Afraid to Dream     42 21  If You’re Going to Jump Off a Bridge, Make Sure You Know How Deep the Water Is     44 22  Don’t Dwell on the Past     46 23  Don’t Live in the Future     48 24  Get on With Life--It’s Whooshing Past     50 25  Be Consistent     52 26  Dress Like Today Is Important     54 27  Have a Belief System     56 28  Leave a Little Space for Yourself Each Day     58 29  Have a Plan     60 30  Have a Sense of Humor     62 31  Choose How You Make Your Bed     64 32  Life Can Be a Bit Like Advertising     66 33  Get Used to Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone     68 34  Learn to Ask Questions     70 35  Have Dignity     72 36  It’s OK to Feel Big Emotions     74 37  Keep the Faith     76 38  You’ll Never Understand Everything     78 39  Know Where True Happiness Comes From     80 40  Life Is a Pizza     82 41  Know When to Let Go--When to Walk Away     84 42  Retaliation Leads to Escalation     86 43  Look After Yourself     88 44  Maintain Good Manners in All Things     90 45  Prune Your Stuff Frequently     92 46  Remember to Touch Base     94 47  Draw the Lines Around Yourself     96 48  Shop for Quality, Not Price     98 49  It’s OK to Worry, or to Know How Not To     100 50  Stay Young     102 51  Throwing Money at a Problem Doesn’t Always Work     104 52  Think for Yourself     106 53  You Are Not in Charge     108 54  Have Something in Your Life That Takes You Out of Yourself     110 55  Only the Good Feel Guilty     112 56  If You Can’t Say Anything Nice, Don’t Say Anything at All     114   Part II Partnership Rules     117 57  Accept the Differences, Embrace What You Have in Common     120 58  Allow Your Partner the Space to Be Themselves     122 59  Be Nice     124 60  You Want to Do What?     126 61  Be the First to Say Sorry     128 62  Go That Extra Step in Trying to Please Them     130 63  Always Have Someone--or Something--That Is Pleased to See You     132 64  Know When to Listen and When to Act     134 65  Have a Passion for Your Life Together     136 66  Make Sure Your Love Making Is Making Love     138 67  Keep Talking     140 68  Respect Privacy     142 69  Check You Both Have the Same Shared Goals     144 70  Treat Your Partner Better Than Your Best Friend     146 71  Contentment Is a High Aim     148 72  You Don’t Both Have to Have the Same Rules     150   Part III Family and Friends Rules     153 73  If You Are Going to Be a Friend, Be a Good Friend     156 74  Never Be Too Busy for Loved Ones     158 75  Let Your Kids Mess Up for Themselves--They Don’t Need Any Help from You     160 76  Have a Little Respect and Forgiveness for Your Parents     162 77  Give Your Kids a Break     164 78  Never Lend Money Unless You Are Prepared to Write It Off     166 79  Keep Quiet     168 80  There Are No Bad Children     170 81  Be Up Around People You Love     172 82  Give Your Kids Responsibilities     174 83  Your Children Need to Fall Out with You to Leave Home     176 84  Your Kids Will Have Friends You Don’t Like     178 85  Your Role as a Child     180 86  Your Role as a Parent     182   Part IV Social Rules     185 87  We’re All Closer Than You Think     188 88  It Doesn’t Hurt to Forgive     190 89  It Doesn’t Hurt to Be Helpful     192 90  What’s in It for Them?     194 91  Hang Out with Positive People     196 92  Be Generous with Your Time and Information     198 93  Get Involved     200 94  Keep the Moral High Ground     202 95  Just Because You Have, Doesn't Mean They Have Too     204 96  Do Compare Yourself with Other People     206 97  Have a Plan for Your Career     208 98  Look at the Long-Term Ramifications of What You Do for a Living     210 99  Be Good at Your Job     212 100  Be Aware of the Damage You Are Doing     214 101  Be for the Glory, Not the Degradation     216 102  Be Part of the Solution, Not the Problem     218 103  Check What History Would Say About You     220 104  Not Everything Can Be Green     222 105  Put Something Back     224 106  Find a New Rule Every Day--or Occasionally at Least     226     Rules of Work, Expanded Edition   Foreword   viii Introduction   x Part I Walk Your Talk   1  1  Get Your Work Noticed   4  2  Never Stand Still   6  3  Volunteer Carefully   8  4  Carve Out a Niche for Yourself   10  5  Under Promise and Over Deliver   12  6  Learn to Ask Why   14  7  Be 100 Percent Committed   16  8  Learn from Others’ Mistakes   18  9  Enjoy What You Are Doing   20 10 Develop the Right Attitude   22 11 Be Passionate But Don’t Kill Yourself   24 12 Manage Your Energy   26 13 Never Let Anyone Know How Hard You Work   28 14 Keep Your Home Life at Home   30 Part II Know That You’re Being Judged at All Times   33 15 Cultivate a Smile   36 16 No Limp Fish–Develop the Perfect Handshake   38 17 Exude Confidence and Energy   40 18 Develop a Style That Gets You Noticed   42 19 Pay Attention to Personal Grooming   44 20 Be Attractive   46 21 Be Cool   48 22 Speak Well   50 23 Write Well   52 Part III Have a Plan   55 24 Know What You Want Long Term   58 25 Know What You Want Short term   60 26 Study the Promotion System   62 27 Develop a Game Plan   64 28 Set Objectives   66 29 Know Your Role   68 30 Know Yourself–Strengths and Weaknesses   70 31 Identify Key Times and Events   72 32 Anticipate Threats   74 33 Look for Opportunities   76 34 Make Learning a Lifelong Mission   78 Part IV If You Can’t Say Anything Nice–Shut Up   81 35 Don’t Gossip   84 36 Don’t Bitch    86 37 Stand Up for Others  88 38 Compliment People Sincerely   90 39 Be Cheerful and Positive   92 40 Ask Questions   94 41 Use “Please” and “Thank You”   96 42 Don’t Swear   98 43 Be a Good Listener   100 44 Only Speak Sense   102 Part V Look After Yourself   105 45 Know the Ethics of Your Industry   108 46 Know the Legalities of Your Industry   110 47 Set Personal Standards   112 48 Never Lie   114 49 Never Cover Up for Anyone Else   116 50 Keep Records   118 51 Know the Difference Between the Truth and The Whole Truth   120 52 Cultivate Your Support/Contacts/ Friends   122 53 Date with Caution   124 54 Understand Others’ Motives   126 55 Assume Everyone Else Is Playing by Different Rules   128 56 Keep the Faith   130 57 Put Things in Perspective   132 Part VI Blend In   135 58 Know the Corporate Culture   138 59 Speak the Language   140 60 Dress Up or Dress Down Accordingly   142 61 Be Adaptable in Your Dealings with Different People   144 62 Make Your Boss Look Good   146 63 Know Where to Hang Out, and When   148 64 Understand Social Protocols   150 65 Know the Rules about Authority   152 66 Know the Rules about the Office Hierarchy   154 67 Never Disapprove of Others   156 68 Understand the Herd Mentality   158 Part VII Act One Step Ahead   161 69 Dress One Step Ahead   164 70 Talk One Step Ahead   166 71 Act One Step Ahead   168 72 Think One Step Ahead   170 73 Address Corporate Issues and Problems   172 74 Make Your Company Better for Having You There   174 75 Talk of “We” Rather Than “I”   176 76 Walk the Walk   178 77 Spend More Time with Senior Staff   180 78 Get People to Assume You Have Already Made the Step   182 79 Prepare for the Step After Next   184 Part VIII Cultivate Diplomacy   187 80 Ask Questions in Times of Conflict   190 81 Don’t Take Sides   192 82 Know When to Keep Your Opinions to Yourself   194 83 Be Conciliatory   196 84 Never Lose Your Temper   198 85 Never Get Personal   200 86 Know How to Handle Other People’s Anger   202 87 Stand Your Ground   204 88 Be Objective About the Situation   206 Part IX Know the System--and Milk It   209 89 Know All the Unspoken Rules of Office Life   212 90 Know What to Call Everyone   214 91 Know When to Stay Late and When to Go Early   216 92 Know the Theft or Perks Rule   218 93 Identify the People Who Count   220 94 Be on the Right Side of the People Who Count    222 95 Be Well Up on New Management Techniques    224 96 Know the Undercurrents and Hidden Agendas   226 97 Know the Favorites and Cultivate Them   228 98 Know the Mission Statement--and Understand It   230 Part X Handle the Opposition   233 99 Identify the Opposition   236 100 Study Them Closely   238 101 Don’t Back-Stab   240 102 Know the Psychology of Promotion   242 103 Don’t Give Too Much Away   244 104 Keep Your Ear to the Ground   246 105 Make the Opposition Seem Irreplaceable   248 106 Don’t Damn the Opposition with Faint Praise   250 107 Capitalize on the Career-Enhancing Moments   252 108 Cultivate the Friendship and Approval of Your Colleagues   254 Postscript: Know When to Break the Rules   256