Finally, family members and professionals have true guidance for these difficult, but necessary, conversations. Author Catherine Faherty offers detailed, concrete explanations of illness, dying, life after death, losing a pet, and numerous other issues. Her descriptions are written with such care; even caregivers will be comforted by her words. The communication forms following each short topic will engage learners and include them in the conversation, allowing them to share personal experiences, thoughts, and concerns. Wonderful chapters such as 'What People May Learn When Facing Death' and 'Role Models and Mentors' put death into perspective in terms of life, and encourage us all to live fully. Catherine covers important topics such as: illness and injury, recuperating and healing, when someone is dying, what happens to the person who dies, putting pets to sleep, rituals and traditions, what people say and do, and many more!

Table of Contents:
Foreword A Mother’s Essay Message from the Author Why did I write this book? Why should you read this book? Who should read this book? Using This Book When should it be read? Is it about both people and animals? How is this book organized? What are the “Communication Forms”? A Close Look at Communication What is the purpose of Chapter 18? How can this book be adapted for young children or adults who can neither read nor comprehend the text? What can I do for a child or an adult who does not read with comprehension, or who seems not to understand pictures or photographs? Special Note to Parents and Significant Others Important Information For The Reader What should I read first? What are the Communication Forms? Chapter 1: Illness and Injury Why do people get sick? Is Asperger’s an illness? How do I know if I am sick? How do I know if I am injured? What should I do when I am sick or injured? What is an emergency? What is a difficult situation? Why should I practice the plan when an emergency is not really happening? Chapter 2: Recuperating and Healing What helps people recuperate and heal? What may being sick teach us? What does being injured teach us? Do people and animals usually recuperate and heal after being sick or injured? After recuperating, are people the same as they were before they were sick or injured? What else may we learn from being sick? Does everyone recuperate and heal, all of the time? How does a person who is sick or injured know if he or she is going to recuperate, or if he or she is going to die because of the illness or injury? Is the person or animal going to recuperate, or going to die from the illness or injury? Chapter 3: Death and Dying: Who, What, When, Where, and How What is death and dying? What is a lifespan? When do people and animals die? What is life expectancy? How do people or animals die? What does it mean when someone dies after being sick or injured? What does it mean when someone has died suddenly? What does it mean when someone has died of old age? Do all old people and old animals die? Where do people die? Where do animals die? Chapter 4: When Someone Is Dying Who takes care of people when they are dying? What happens to the body of the person or animal in the dying process? Why do people visit a person who may be dying? What if a person feels uncomfortable about visiting someone who is dying? What may happen during a visit to a person who is dying? What might it be like if the person is in a hospital? What if the person who is dying tries to talk? What if the person who is dying cannot talk? What if the person who is dying does not want any visitors? How do people react when someone they know is dying? What does it mean when people say it is time to “let him (her) go”? Chapter 5: Communication What is communication? Why is communication important? What does it mean to communicate “before it is too late”? What are some examples of the things that people may want to communicate before someone dies? How do people communicate effectively? What is a miscommunication? What should be done in cases of miscommunication? Why is understanding each other so important? “Understanding” Goes Two Ways: How does someone know that he or she has something important to communicate? The First Category: How does someone know that he or she should communicate to express the need for a change? What is “help”? The Second Category: How does someone know when he or she should communicate pleasure and gratitude? Why is it important to communicate gratitude when having positive feelings and experiences? Whom should I thank? The Third Category: How does someone know when he or she should communicate to share ideas, thoughts, or feelings? What are the most common methods of communication? What is other important information about communication? If there is something that a person didn’t communicate to someone who died, is it too late now? Chapter 6: What Happens to the Person Who Dies What does it mean that death is a “mystery”? What happens to the person after he or she dies? What do “belief” and “to believe in something” mean? What are some beliefs about what happens to the person after death? Most people agree on one thing Chapter 7: Putting Pets To Sleep What does it mean when a pet has to be “put to sleep”? Do doctors put people “to sleep” in the same way as veterinarians put animals “to sleep”? Chapter 8: Rituals and Traditions What rituals and traditions are practiced after someone has died? What is a “wake” or a “viewing”? What is a closed casket, and an open casket? What is a funeral service? What is a graveside service? What is a memorial service? What is a “celebration of life” for someone who has died? What happens when people come to a family member’s home after a service? Chapter 9: Taking Care of the Physical Body What happens to the body after dying? What is a shroud? What does it mean for the body to be buried? What is a cemetery? What are tombs, crypts, and mausoleums? What does it mean to be “buried at sea”? What does it mean for the body to be cremated? What happens to the cremains? What does it mean for the body to be donated to science? Does being cremated, buried, kept in a mausoleum, or being donated to science, hurt the person who has died? Who decides what to do with the body? Chapter 10: What People Say and Do What do people say after someone has died? What should I say if someone tries to say “comforting words” to me? What if someone tries to touch, hug, or kiss me at this time? Chapter 11: Taking Care of the Soul: More Rituals and Traditions Why do people visit the grave, shrine, or keep the cremains of the person who has died? Why do people sometimes do special things to remember the person who has died? Does everyone have to participate in a special ritual for someone who has died? If I want to create a special ritual for a person or animal who has died, what might I do? When should I perform a ritual for a person or animal who has died? Chapter 12: Continuing a Relationship What does “continuing a relationship” mean? Can people continue a relationship with someone who has died? What does it mean to be “close” to a person or animal? “Were you close to him (or her)?” How can people have a relationship with someone who has died? Chapter 13: People’s Reactions after Someone Dies How do people react when they learn that a person they know has died? Will things change after someone dies? How do living people react to a death, later on? What is grieving? Does everyone grieve in the same way after someone dies? What are the most frequent reactions while grieving? What are common reactions that people have while grieving? Acceptance Anger Denial Difficulty Thinking Fear Guilt Physical Distress Regression Sadness Yearning What should a person do when a “close person” has died? What if I want to be alone? What does “being safe” mean? How long will the grieving process last? Why do people say that grieving “comes in waves”? Why do people say that grieving is “like a roller coaster”? What are some activities that may help people through their grieving? What if I am angry at the person or animal who has died? What about school, work, and other responsibilities and activities? Do feelings stay the same or do they change? Do people always feel strong emotions after someone has died? What is the difference between feeling emotions and expressing emotions? The Question: “How do you feel?” Why do some people not cry after someone dies? What does “apathy” or “apathetic” mean? What does “acceptance” mean? What does it mean to make “adjustments”? Chapter 14: More Names for Emotions Why learn the names of different emotions? What are the names of general categories of emotions? Happiness: What are more words that describe degrees of happiness? Fear: What are more words that describe degrees of fear? Anger: What are more words that describe degrees of anger? Sadness: What are words that describe degrees of sadness? Surprise: What are words that describe degrees of surprise? Interest: What are words that describe degrees of interest? How can a person learn more about feelings and emotions? Chapter 15: What Does it Mean If Someone Says What does it mean if someone says, “I want to die” or “I want to kill myself” or “Why don’t you just kill me?” How do these statements become a routine? How can it be helpful to know if I have a routine of saying certain statements? What does it mean if someone is depressed, and says “I want to die” or “I want to kill myself,” or if he or she is thinking of ways to die? Why should a person get help if he or she is depressed? Chapter 16: What People May Learn About Life When Facing Death What does it mean to “face death”? What are some of the things people may think about when they face death? Appreciation and Gratitude Regret Forgiveness Self-Knowledge Acceptance Fear Courage People Tolerance Respect Kindness Honesty The Combination of Honesty, Respect, and Kindness Uncertainty Faith God Fulfillment Love Truth Reality What are some suggestions about how to live a good life? What does it mean when people say to “do your best”? Does “doing your best” mean having to be perfect? What does it mean to “learn from your mistakes”? What is the Seven-Step Plan to follow when a person discovers a mistake? What does it mean to “keep a positive attitude”? Does “keeping a positive attitude” mean being happy all the time? Life is “Ups and Downs” What does it mean to “live life to the fullest”? What does it mean that “everyone is here for a purpose”? What does it mean to “live one day at a time”? What is “The Golden Rule”? Why is it called “The Golden Rule”? What does it mean to “make the world a better place”? What does “a better place” mean? Suggestions to improve physical health Suggestions to improve safety and security Suggestions to improve emotional experience Suggestions to strengthen mental development Suggestions to improve spiritual awareness Suggestions to improve the environment What does “independent” mean? What does “interdependent” mean? Chapter 17: Being Inspired: Role Models and Mentors What does it mean to “be inspired”? Why is it important to develop skills, talents, and interests? Reason #1: How does developing skills, talents, and interests add pleasure and enjoyment to a person’s life? Reason #2: How may developing skills, talents, and interests lead to new positive experiences? Reason #3: How may developing skills, talents, and interests lead people to a job? Reason #4: How may using skills, talents, or interests make the world a better place? What are positive role models? Can I choose a positive role model? How do people find a positive role model? What is a mentor? Chapter 18: Quotes Chapter 19: Just for Fun: Idioms What are some idioms and expressions using the word “dead” that do not literally mean it? Chapter 20: Resources for More Information Primarily for Adults For Both Children and Adults A Prose-Poem The One True Freedom Acknowledgments The Illustrator The Author